Here's How to Be Happy Alone and Build a Lasting Relationship with Yourself

The idea of being alone is not always seen as a good thing. Too often, being alone is associated with the word lonely, but the two ideas are not mutually exclusive. Getting to the point where you enjoy being alone —and dare I say, are happy alone — is a powerful place to be, and one that can be very grounding and rewarding once you're comfortable in that

In order to feel happy alone, you must first build a relationship with yourself. "Building a relationship with yourself involves actually getting to know yourself, as you would anyone else you wanted to build a relationship with," explains Nancy Colier, psychotherapist and author of The Emotionally Exhausted Woman: Why You Feel Depleted and How to Get What You Need.

Colier adds that "while you may think you already know yourself (maybe more than you want to know), most of what you know is probably about who you should be and shouldn’t be, as opposed to who you really are."

In that sense, getting to know yourself unapologetically is the first step to learning how to love yourself and be happy alone. Here are a few more expert-led ways to find happiness alone.

How to Be Your Own Best Friend

First of all, be mindful of judgments that might arise when spending time focusing on yourself, and remind yourself that putting yourself first is a healthy move. "As women, we're taught to be selfless, to take care of others’ needs over our own, and if possible, to have no needs of our own," says Colier. "If we put ourselves on the list of people who matter; if we choose to spend time with ourselves, we’re often labeled selfish and entitled."

Colier says that it might be helpful to acknowledge the loss up until this point of having not experienced true love for yourself or even happiness in solitude. You can even do a small ritual like burning a candle or journaling to signify the start of your personal journey to loving yourself and appreciating being alone. "Journaling can be a wonderful way to discover new things about ourselves and gain deeper insights into who we are," says Kristin Wilson, M.A., L.P.C., C.C.T.P, R.Y.T., and chief experience officer at Newport Healthcare. "Writing in a journal can provide an emotional release and offer a place for us to be completely honest and authentic with ourselves," she adds.

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How To Make Your Weekends Feel Longer

Time off from work always goes by way too fast. Here, experts share how to make the most of your weekends. (Photo: Klaus Vedfelt via Getty Images)

Weekends never feel long enough. Whether it’s a regular two-day weekend or an extended (but, somehow, still short) three-day weekend, leisure time goes by much faster than work days.

While there isn’t a magical way to actually extend every weekend, there are ways to take advantage of the time off work, and, in turn, make your weekends feel more fulfilling.

According to Dr. Mike Sevilla, a family physician at the Family Practice Center of Salem in Ohio, weekends are even more important than you may think.

“People need physical time and space to relax and recharge their mind and body after a long work week,” Sevilla said.

Tracy Dumas, an associate professor in the management and human resources department atthe Ohio State University, added that “any break from work, [whether] vacations, weekends or even after work in the evening, is incredibly important for recovery.”

Recovery, Dumas added, is a “term used by organizational psychologists to capture the concept of replenishing resources depleted by the effort expended at work” — much as athletes need to recover and take rest days after tough workouts.

Here, experts share how to optimize those recovery days and make the most of your time off:

Plan out some of your time.

“You can make the most out of your weekend by planning to do activities that you enjoy,” said Alayna L. Park, an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Oregon.

She noted that creating a specific schedule for your weekend can help you follow through with the activities you want to do. This way, you don’t go into Sunday night feeling disappointed with the activities you did (or didn’t do). Read full article on Yahoo.

Mississippi Moms Share Horrors of Parenting During Water Crisis

Brad Vest/Getty Security personnel outside the O.B. Curtis Water Treatment Plan in Jackson, Miss.

Residents of Jackson, Miss., are currently battling through a water crisis that one woman says "has been building for decades." Having children at home makes it even more difficult.

Mom Brooke Floyd, 43, tells PEOPLE that many of her fellow Jackson residents are both "angry and frustrated" after being left without reliable running water for more than a month.

Jackson has been under a boil water order for over 30 days due to issues with the water system, which has left some residents with little to no water at all. The problem was exacerbated by the recent flooding of the Pearl River, which resulted in a temporary decrease in water production across the city.

RELATED: Here's How Mississippi Residents Are Coping During the Jackson Water Crisis

Deneka Samuel, a mom of six children ages 4 to 19, says it can be challenging at times during the crisis, and is hoping to see improvement soon.

"It's hard and it's a struggle, but we're going to keep on and keep on and keep on fighting," she tells PEOPLE.

The water went completely out on Monday, according to Floyd, a mother of four, including 6-year-old twins. "We turned on the faucets and there wasn't any water," she says, explaining that it's since come back sporadically.

What water has been coming into Samuel's house has been brown, leaving her in a constant cleaning frenzy to ensure her kids aren't coming in contact with it. "I have to make sure I keep my house sanitized," she says. "I clean up every day so there won't be [any] bacteria or germs. And I have to watch my kids closely so they don't touch the water in the sink and get sick."

Basic tasks like cooking, bathing or even going to the bathroom have become massive chores for Samuel. She cooks and has everyone brush their teeth with bottled water and uses jugs of water to fill the toilet before flushing (toilet paper, she says, goes in a bag for worries of the pipes backing up).

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Music Community Plans Protest to Condemn Sexual Violence

Protest flyers are seen taped on an Indiana Avenue utility pole March 31, 2022. Organizers hung multiple flyers around campus to spread word of Saturday’s event at the East Studio Building. Some of those flyers have been torn down and defaced with offensive writing.

Since January, Jacobs School of Music students have been pushing for more in-depth conversations and tangible solutions after an Indiana Daily Student investigation detailed a sexual misconduct case.

Students have attended town halls, conversed with faculty and staff and posted on social media to express their fears and concerns. In internal conversations, the university often stifled conversations, citing the Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act and barred students from discussing the specifics of the case. 

Now, those dismayed students are asking for more. 

At 5 p.m. Saturday, students and the music community are gathering at the East Studio Building to protest and demand answers from their institution. Within their list of demands, they are asking for the university to condemn sexual violence, better protect survivors and forge a safer community. 

The IDS investigation, which prompted the protest, describes how music student Chris Parker was should have been expelled or charged by police, or both, when he breached his suspension stemming from a sexual assault. The university did not follow these terms of his suspension, which are detailed in a document obtained by the IDS. He was allowed back as a student twice after that. Organizer and alumna Abby Malala said the university needs to follow through on the promises they make in their policies.

"It's very important to us that if a survivor is told that certain action will be taken that that promise to them follows through," she said.

Parker is a starting point for much larger conversations about sexual assault and how the university handles Title IX investigations and sanctions, she said. After the stunting of previous conversations, Malala hopes the university recognizes how infuriated students are about what she calls a "miserable miscarriage of justice."

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Melissa B. Goes Down In History To Host First-Ever Single Release Party On The Metaverse

Melissa B. is an award-winning singer/songwriter and known for her outstanding performance of the national anthem at Barclays Center during the Celtics vs Nets Game. She is a USA #1 Billboard R&B / Pop charted artist, speaker, and actress. She stunned everyone with her amazing vocals before the game and left the audience in awe.

She is hosting the first-ever single release party in the Metaverse on 2/22/22 at 7 PM EST. To RSVP click here.

“Physical” is a straight-up R&B cut with a smooth dance groove in which Melissa B. is giving you that feel good R&B tune. This R&B tune is about connecting with your lover, giving her the love and attention she deserves. This song is a combination of mechanical instruments and Melissa's beautiful, melodic voice.

Melissa B. - Physical - Virtual Single Release Party

Join us on February 22

Melissa B. is doing the very first every "Virtual Single Release Party" in the Metaverse.

This is the first of its kind and you will be a part of history with Melissa B.

This release party you will be able to interact with others on your Laptop, iPhone, Android, and or VR Headset ( Oculus).

“Physical” is the new song written by B. Howard, produced by B. Howard, Kyle Beatz & engineered by Grammy recipient Michael Ashby who was responsible for recording Cardi B.’s song “Bodak Yellow”.


“Physical” is available on Beatify, the first fair-trade blockchain streaming platform and all other streaming platforms released through Amada Records.

RSVP and the day of the event emails will be sent out with the private link.

We look forward to seeing you there!

Visit her Website and follow her movement on Instagram and purchase her new single on SongWhip.

To help you get a sense of how vague and complex a term “the metaverse” can be, here's an exercise to try: Mentally replace the phrase “the metaverse” in a sentence with “cyberspace.” Ninety percent of the time, the meaning won't substantially change. That's because the term doesn't really refer to any one specific type of technology, but rather a broad shift in how we interact with technology. And it's entirely possible that the term itself will eventually become just as antiquated, even as the specific technology it once described becomes commonplace.

Broadly speaking, the technologies that make up the metaverse can include virtual reality—characterized by persistent virtual worlds that continue to exist even when you're not playing—as well as augmented reality that combines aspects of the digital and physical worlds. However, it doesn't require that those spaces be exclusively accessed via VR or AR. A virtual world, like aspects of Fortnite that can be accessed through PCs, game consoles, and even phones, could be metaversal.

It also translates to a digital economy, where users can create, buy, and sell goods. And, in the more idealistic visions of the metaverse, it's interoperable, allowing you to take virtual items like clothes or cars from one platform to another. In the real world, you can buy a shirt from the mall and then wear it to a movie theater. Right now, most platforms have virtual identities, avatars, and inventories that are tied to just one platform, but a metaverse might allow you to create a persona that you can take everywhere as easily as you can copy your profile picture from one social network to another.

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